Earlier this week, I had a quick, but really great chat with a gentleman who voluntarily offered to share some recommendations and tips for me as an aspiring professional speaker. It was one of those amazing connections that happens when you stay connected with the folks in your personal & professional circles, focus on giving & reciprocity & are open to the possibilities.
I learned that he hosts a weekly Monday morning radio show; is an author; is a long-time, seasoned professional speaker & of course, has a busy travel schedule. I didn't get his permission to share his name, so let's just leave the details at that! :)
For example, I'm in the process of pulling together my first published project, "I'm Going In . . . An Introspection Journal," a compilation of the shared experiences, lessons learned, observations, "aha" moments, insights & playful thoughts from The Wisdom of Friends Blog that a group of growth friends & I published in 2012. It also includes guidelines on various introspective writing styles. It was a fun project that we closed out with a fun photo shoot . . . a true labor of love. I learned so much about my self & the ladies who contributed.
Anyway, after we wrapped this all up, it was time to decide what to do with all of their submissions (I had hundreds of 'em), so about mid 2013, I decided to pull them all together in a journal. Great idea, right? Absolutely! But, guess what, my inner critic got to chattering with her big mouth . . . "Who do you think you are trying to publish a journal?"
This little wrestling match within translated to dragging my feet, procrastinating & doubting myself. I was waiting instead of creating.
After a couple of months of this super annoying, internal wrestling, I looked at myself in the mirror & said (and I paraphrase), 'Listen girlie, you can DO this. Quit putting other people on a pedestal, you can compile & publish just as well as anyone else who has, no doubt, gone through this long and arduous process, peppered with self doubt. Dive in, find out what you need to know, & GET BUSY CREATING.'
YOU GOTTA LOVE MIRROR CHATS! :)
So, I got busy. Did the internal critic leave me alone? Nope, she's not going anywhere, I've accepted that. Now I know how to better manage her. When she gets too chatty, I just send her to take a nap & I keep on moving!
We've got to ignore that inner critic & stop allowing it to make us wait until everything is perfect; until we get permission from family, friends & spouses; until we feel worthy to share our contribution; etc.
Although I embraced this "Don't wait, create" charge some time ago, it was nice to hear it again from a seasoned professional who has, no doubt, moved through some of these challenges. Now, I can share a few words about it in this blog and hopefully inspire some of you who are doing the waiting dance when you know it's time to get busy.
As far as my publishing project, I did my due diligence on the publishing process & connected with several publishing & printing companies. My submission has been rejected a handful of times, which I expected, but I kept plugging along, learned a lot over the last few months, & am now raising the money to publish it. For the first time I am going to formally publish something I created to share with others. Yes, it is scary, but only because I've (we've) been conditioned to believe that I am (we are) unworthy to share what I'm (we're) up to.
Being human is all about creative self-expression & genuine, heartfelt contribution.
So, if you're dragging your feet on some project,
endeavor, or whatever, DON'T WAIT, CREATE!!!
Aspiring Sage, Creative Maven, Fancier of Books, Guardian of Student Experiences, Inner Explorer, Lover of Living & Learning, Partisan of Play, Princess of Joy, Purveyor of Possibility, Vibrational Recalibrator.